Updated: Jan 9
Welcome to my website and blog.
I sometimes think negatively about having my own website. Is it narcissistic? It is going to be useful? Will anyone ever visit it? These are all questions I have asked myself and will likely continue to ask. The same goes for writing a blog, which I have attempted to do a few times in the past but repeatedly gave up on for one reason or another – usually pertaining to a belief that nobody will read it for any reason other than to laugh at it.
That said, I hold a strong belief that the best thing that any person can do is to share their thoughts, opinions and ideas. We can all learn from one another, but only if we believe we can. This doesn’t only mean acknowledging that we can learn from others, but also that the rest of the world can learn a thing or two from us. This brings us to narcissism and all of the negative connotations that come with that word. I am going to let you in on a little secret, calling me a narcissist is the one insult that lands heaviest on me; it can stop me in my tracks. Those who know me best will know I have a lot of confidence in my own abilities (meaning I know what I am good at, not that I think I am good at everything) but that there was always something holding me back from doing things that I want to do. It is the word narcissist. Every time I have attempted push forward with goals that are outside of what most people consider normal, I have hesitated because I do not want the accusation of being narcissistic thrown in my direction. I think about why that is. I believe it is because the culture I grew up in in Northern Ireland looked down on confidence instead of nurturing it, and as I grew up, I done the same. I am willing to bet that no child in Northern Ireland can display confidence for more than a few minutes without being told to “stop showing off”. I find it funny now, but it used to crush me when I was the one being told off for daring to think I could entertain someone with my humour for a few moments. If I am lucky enough to have children in the future, they will be encouraged to show off their abilities and to be confident.
The question of how useful a website or blog will be, will take time to answer but for now I can settle for the notion that it has at least the potential to be useful. I can use the website as a base for everything that I want to share personally and professionally. I have some personal goals for things that I want to do. I want to start a podcast and a website can be a base for that. Although I have not started this yet, I think I would enjoy it and have been practicing it by recording myself and watching it back. My accent, stumbling on words and tendency to rush through points will need work, but I want to do that work. I have lived my life with my eyes open and think I have gathered up some really useful information and logical points of view. I think it will be cool to have a place to share them. Two other things that interest me are talking to interesting people and helping people, and I believe a podcast can do some of both.
Professionally, last year I stepped into the world of Life Coaching and want a base for people to get more information about that. In my experience, almost everyone has the wrong idea of what Life Coaching is, partially because the title is vague and somewhat misleading. People think it is therapy, which I am not qualified to give. It is not even advice, which I also think I am not qualified to give. Life Coaching is more like goal management. I will talk about it more in the future in a separate blog but you can click the link below if you want to read more about what I do or even request a free session.
I have actually wanted to be a Life Coach since I was a teenager and even completed courses on the subject years ago, but only started practicing last year. Perhaps it was something to do with growing up before I started, but in my mid-thirties I am probably not going to grow up any more. That said, I am confident that I have the ability to help people with my services.
Again, I will talk about this all more in the future and go into more details about the things I want to do but for now, this is my website. I am sure it will change over time. Feel free to reach out if you would like to talk, offer any feedback on the website or want to ask about Life Coaching.
Also I went full narcissist and made a Logo for myself. Sorry.
Thanks for reading this brief intro.